你如何去判断某人是否爱上了你?
事实是，你的另一半并不需要把爱说出口来让你知道.当然, 在两个人的关系中,向另一半表达爱意是很重要的。
但是，你可以从另一半流露出的行为、态度看出，你的爱人是否深爱着你的，而不仅仅是想与你XXOO或占你便宜。
在考虑这些迹象之前，让我们看看为什么知道另一半是否爱你很重要:
相互依赖是幸福长久关系的基础。
为什么?因为感情需要两个人来维系。如果爱情不是相互的，那么这段关系注定会失败。就算现在没有失败,迟早也会。两年来，他尽全力来取悦她
杰夫(化名)是我一个非常亲密的朋友，他曾经爱过并和一个对他毫不在乎的女人交往过。
而且,他知道。
然而，他仍然执着，希望有一天，如果他能继续让她保持开心，对方也许会回报他的爱。
他把自己的所有都奉献给她。他奉献了他的积蓄。他奉献了时间。他不停的给她买礼物。
他还和身边的人断了联系。例如，他和他妹妹闹翻了。他在尼日利亚帮这位女士的姐姐管理资产的同时,却对自己的葡萄酒生意的放弃管理。
这段关系持续了两年。
在上次我们见面时，他承认这段感情完全是盲目不冷静考虑的投入。
从中我们学到了:
如果爱不是相互的，一段关系就注定要失败。原因是感情需要两个人共同努力。如果爱情不是相互的，那么这段感情成功的希望就很小。
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这样说吧，可以找到三个迹象来证明某人是否爱上了你(或者你爱上了某人):
1. 他/她会很乐意地向你汇报他/她生活中的点点滴滴(重要或不重要)
换句话说，他/她们希望你了解他/她的生活。他们把你看作是他们自己的延伸。不是作为一个陌生人。
当约我女朋友出去约会时，她不是给我一个“是”或“否”的回答，而是几乎不停的告诉我她一天中发生的重要的事情。
“Josh，我今天学了一种新的炒饭。我在Ins看到了，我试了一下。怎么样，我明天来教你怎么做。”
“Joshua，有件事已经困扰我两年了。我没有勇气告诉任何人。希望你明天还在?我很想听听你的看法。”
当然你的另一半也可能不会表现这么明显。
但重点是:当你的另一半或你约会的人兴奋地和你分享他们一天中最精彩的部分或哪怕仅仅是日常生活，这表明他们和你在一起时情感上是安全的，或者他们在你的能量环中感到安全。
在某人的身边感到安全是一种亲密关系。那种平静和被保护的感觉真的被大家低估了-某人说。不要忽略这个迹象: 情感安全。
你的另一半或者和你即将开始一段浪漫关系的人会兴奋地讨论他们一天的生活，或与你分享生活中的小秘密吗?
甚至这个迹象对那些个性内向的人是重要的. 更可以看作是和你亲密的主要标志。如果他们在你身边时表现出兴奋，那么说明他们有可能在你身边不会拘束。而这是情感安全的重要象征:真正爱你的人在你的陪伴下能体验到自由自在。
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2. 他们会诚恳的对待你的意见和行动
当有人爱你的时候，你任何行动、或不作为、或表现和态度都对他们开始有意义。
我的女朋友在她上个生日之前，也就是2020年9月3日，还没有答复我是不是愿意交往。
那天，我故意没有发照片给她，也没有祝她生日快乐，直到晚上8点我才给她发了生日祝福。我甚至没有打她的电话。
即使很多人祝她生日快乐，甚至有人为她买了蛋糕，我女朋友仍然觉得这一天是不完整的。为什么?因为我还没有祝她生日快乐。
第二天早上我给她打电话时，她显得很矜持。"一切都好吗?" 她说:是的。在进行了几分钟乏味的谈话后，我们挂断了电话。
那天晚上，她的朋友给我发了语音留言。那真是一次情感大爆炸!那天晚上她对我非常生气，她无法自控。对我没有祝生日快乐,她感到既伤心又愤怒。
我需要向她道歉，然后我们才会像以前那样聊天，一起度过周末的美好时光。
尽管她收到了很多来自朋友们的祝福，但我的祝福对她来说意味更多，所以当我没能满足她的愿望时，她感觉一天都毁了。
如果某人爱你，他们会在意你的意见、行为和态度。你的做与不做对他们来说都有意义。
注意这个迹象: 这种意义的仪式感
你的另一半是否重视你对他们的意见、行为和态度?
如果是，那说明你正靠近他们的心。他们在生活中重视你。这意味着他们可能真的爱上你了。你知道为什么吗?只有你爱的人才会伤害到你。即使是很小的事情，你也会被他/她注意。
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3.他们愿意为你妥协
如果有人愿意为了你而在原则和价值观上妥协，那他们就是真心爱你。意味着你对他们很重要。
例如，我以前的习惯是,一旦到了晚上10点，我就不接电话了。每天晚上12点之前就睡觉。甚至因此，除了新年跨年之外,我也从来不在外面玩通宵。
但我为什么改变了?
虽然打乱我的睡眠习惯会导致接下来两天的睡眠质量不好。但因为我的女朋友有时会在晚上11点半才下班，所以有时我会和她在电话里一直聊到凌晨1点或2点。
但是为什么能让我为了她牺牲了自己的睡眠习惯呢?很简单,因为我爱她。我爱她，所以我愿意为她做出妥协。
当有人爱你时，他们会把你优先对待。他们会在生活中为你创造空间。这有时意味着他们需要在自己的原则上妥协，或者为你让路。
注意这个标志: 特殊待遇
你的伴侣对待你和他们生活中的其他人会不同吗? 他们有时会不顾一切代价的,就是为了满足你某个需要或帮你完成一个任务吗?
如果他们这样做了，那就意味着他们愿意为你做出牺牲。只有真正爱一个人，才会为爱做出牺牲。
这些都是值得关注的正面迹象。它们有助于建立幸福、持久的关系。
原文链接: 3 Signs Someone Is Deeply In Love With YouHow can you tell someone is in love with you?
The truth is, your partner doesn’t need to say they love you to convince you. True, professing love to your partner plays a peculiar role in a relationship
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But then you can tell from their behavior, attitude, and actions that your partner is deeply in love and not just trying to be nice to have sex with you or take advantage of you.
Before we consider the signs, lets see why it is important for you to know that someone or your partner is truly in love with you:Mutuality is the foundation of a happy, long-lasting relationship.
Why? Because it takes two to make a relationship work. If the love isn’t mutual, then the relationship is doomed to fail. If not now, later.For two years, he did his best to delight her
Jeff is a very close friend who loved and dated a lady that didnt give a hoot about him.
He knew.
However, he went ahead hoping that she will one day reciprocate the love if he successfully delights her.
He brought all he possibly could give to the table. He gave his money. He gave his time. He bought her gifts.
He fell out on some relationships. For instance, he fell out with his sister. When he mismanaged the funds for the wine business, he was helping her sister to manage here in Nigeria.
The relationship lasted for two years.
The last time we spoke, he admitted that the relationship was a complete misinvestment of his limited resources.
The lesson
A relationship is committed to failure if the love is not mutual. The reason is that it takes two to make a relationship work. If the love is not mutual, then there is little hope for the success of the relationship.
That said, here are three signs that someone is in love with you ( or you’re in love with someone):
1. They excitedly update you about their day and important aspects of their lives
In other words, they want you to be in the know in their lives. They see you as an extension of themselves. Not as a stranger.
Even when my girlfriend hasnt given me a yes or no after I asked her out, she almost always updated me about the highlights of her day.
"Josh, I learned a new style of cooking fried rice today. I saw it on Instagram and I tried it. See, Ill teach you how to do it when I come around tomorrow."
"Joshua, there is something thats bothered me for about 2 years now. I havent had the courage to tell anyone. Hope you will be around tomorrow? I would love to tell you about it. I would love to see your perspective on it."
Yours may not be so black and white.
But the point is this: when your partner or someone you’re asking out excitedly and freely shares the highlight of their day or a piece of their life with you, it is a sign that they are emotionally safe with you or they feel safe in your energy.
Feeling safe in someone’s energy is a different kind of intimacy. That feeling of peace and protection is really underrated. — Anonymous.
Look out for this sign: emotional safety.
Does your partner or a prospect for a romantic relationship excitedly tell you about their day, or share some little secret about their lives with you?This is a major sign of intimacy if these persons are introverted. If they can’t hold it when around you, chances are high they are very comfortable around you. And it is highly indicative of emotional safety: freedom that true lovers experience when they are in the company of their lovers.
2. They take your opinion and actions seriously
When someone loves you, your actions, inaction, behaviors, and attitudes around them start to mean something to them.
My girlfriend was yet to give me a yes before her last birthday, which was on the 3rd of September 2020.
On that day, I intentionally didnt post her pictures or wish her a happy birthday until about 8 pm when I sent her my birthday wishes. I didnt even call her phone.
Even if many people updated her on their status and wish her birthday and someone even bought a cake for her, her day felt incomplete. Why? Because I didnt wish her a happy birthday.
When I called her the next morning, she felt a lot reserved. " Hope everything is OK?" She said yes. After some minutes of one of the driest conversations ever with her, we dropped the call.
Later that evening, her friend sent me a voice note. It was an emotional outburst! She was mad at me that night as she couldn’t hold herself any longer. She felt so sad and furious about my not wishing her a happy birthday.
I needed to apologize to her before we started talking like before and spending a nice time together on the weekends.
Even if she received a lot of wishes from friends, mine was so important to her that it ruined her day when I didnt come through.
When someone loves you, they take your opinion, behaviors, and attitudes seriously. Your action and inaction carry a lot of significance to them.
Look out for this sign: a sense of significance
Does your partner or romantic prospect attach importance and meanings to your opinions, behaviors, and attitudes around them?
If yes, it is a sign that you’re close to their heart. That they value you in their lives. It means they are genuinely in love with you. Do you know why? It takes someone you love to hurt you. Even with the little things, you will overlook by other people.3. They compromise for you
If someone compromises on their principles and strongly held values for your sake, then they truly deeply love you. It means you’re very dear to them.
For instance, I dont pick phone calls once it is 10 pm. Secondly, I go to bed every night on or before 12. 00 am. For that reason, I dont go to vigils except for crossover nights into a new year.
Why?
Because breaking my sleep cycle disrupts about two days following it. But because my girlfriend closes from her workplace sometimes by 11: 30 pm, sometimes I stay awake till 1 or 2 am with her on the phone.
But what made me compromise on my sleep cycle for her? Because I love her. I love her, so I make the compromise for her.
When someone loves you, they will treat you preferentially. They will create space for you in their lives. Which sometimes means they will need to compromise on their principles or get out of their way just for you.
Look out for this sign: preferential treatment
Does your partner treat you differently from other people in their life? Do they sometimes get out of their way to help you out with a need or a task?
If they do, it means they are sacrificial towards you. And it takes loving someone enough to make those sacrifices of love.These are positive signs to look out for. They make for happy, long-lasting relationships.
